Why you shouldn’t focus on what other people are doing 

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Since I’ve reached my mid twenties, I’ve felt the pressure to get my whole life together at the click of a finger, and life just doesn’t go that way.

I’ve been thinking about doing a post like this for a long time but really didn’t know how to structure it without coming across as negative, because at my blog, it’s all about the peace and love but when one of my closest friends brought it up, I felt like it’s something that needed to be discussed because if I’m thinking and she’s thinking, there must be a lot more of us thinking it.

It’s so easy to get fixated on what others are doing and their success that you begin to forget about your own achievements and goals.  I mean, we all want similar things as such, like a house, a happy life, a family (some sooner than others) and to be financially comfortable but it’s the path we choose to achieve those things, and our interests that make us unique is what we should be focused on.

Pace yourself, don’t go rushing into things or making rash decisions because that’s what someone else has chosen.  We panic about age A LOT but it’s only a number and you’re never too old to do anything. It’s all about taking a path at a pace that’s ideal for you (and me), slow and steady can win the race – you feel me?

Find what or who you love and create that path, and make sure that it’s right for you and your wellbeing, both physically and mentally.  Don’t get side tracked if you’re stuck in on a Friday night (reading my post) whilst everyone on Facebook is out, it’s okay. Sometimes it’s good to stay in, make some food, run a bubble bath, have a glass of wine and put some music on; devote that time to yourself.


Coat – In The Style

Dress – Quiz Clothing

Tights – New Look

Handbag – Linea (similar)

Boots – New Look (Topshop alternative)

Get off social media, not completely, maybe just for the evening.  Sometimes social media can be the route to a lot of problems and creating negative thoughts, especially if you’re not in a great place. It’s easy to compare yourself to others on social media; your engagement announcement , your new home photo and your baby news will be posted when it’s your time – chill.  I know this may be odd, coming from someone who uses social media all the time, but to be honest, I don’t really use my personal accounts that much, I mean I snoop just as much as the next person but I try to have a healthy relationship with social media.

Lastly, appreciate the people you have around you that help you focus and want the best for you.  These are the people to turn to when you have lost your focus and can remind you why you are you, and why you’re great!

Do you sometimes lose focus on your goals? What do you do to stay focused?

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